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Living in Spiritual Alignment: A Guide for Busy Women

Are you feeling the pressure of the end of summer? The controlled chaos of fun in the sun, picnics and parties with friends, vacations, and hopefully, lots of time in nature. I absolutely LOVE summer. I spend every possible minute outside. This summer we decided on a staycation and reworked our entire backyard. New cabana, furniture, dining set, a freaking fantastic meditation garden, and what I’m calling the ‘grillbana’. Having a handyman for a husband has its perks – when I can get him scheduled at our house!


It was really important to me to get this space in order – we hadn’t done it (well) for a couple of years, and I was feeling the loss. Knowing that I was having a significant surgery in July just added pressure to have an outdoor space to recover. It worked! I can’t say that I loved the recovery, but I am so grateful that I had the benefit of doing a lot of it outside. I’m certain the fresh air sped up my recovery.


For most of you though, while summer is great, it adds chaos to your normal life and responsibilities. Those excursions, outings, and good times do not plan themselves. This means that you are stretched even more thin than usual. When that happens, you lose sight of making time for your spiritual connection, your self-love, you.


When that happens, you fall out of alignment. That means that you forget to listen to your inner guidance. You aren’t paying attention to how your thoughts, feelings, and actions are lining up. You forget who you are and what’s important. You forget to listen to your heart.

When you are living out of alignment, you lose touch with your essence, who you really are. You start to ignore parts of yourself. You start to live in thoughts, feelings, and actions that aren’t really you. Those thoughts become your experiences, which then become your filters for your perceptions, thoughts, and feelings. It’s an evil cycle.


So, whether you are feeling exhausted, disconnected, frustrated, underwhelmed, inadequate, shame, fear, or guilt, we can turn it around. The actions aren’t even that hard. They just take a little energy, care, and consistency.


Especially now. As we move out of summer and into fall, you need to pay attention. You need to be the true expression of yourself and be authentically you. You need to remember to live in alignment because when you do, It all comes together. Your energy, your frequency is working at your highest good. This helps you channel your purpose which in turn fulfills you. That, my friend, makes you a gift to this world, to your family, your friends, and your community. That is where the magic is.

 

“Happiness is what you think, what you say, and what you do when you are in harmony.” Mahatma Ghandi


Where do you start? Well, how about getting out of your own way. Listen to your heart. Not your head. This is where analyzation and intellect cause a barrier. Create space around the power of presence, gratitude, and hopeful intention. This will increase your awareness and allow you to be more thoughtful and intentional, more authentic.


To stay connected to your authentic self, practice observing with love. Bring that love and positivity into your thoughts and feelings. Choose to remain kind and compassionate towards yourself, even when facing challenges.


This is so silly but a couple of days ago I ordered dinner, picked it up, and drove 20 minutes home. Just to realize that they gave me everything except my dinner. I was sooooo looking forward to that dinner. My immediate reaction was to get angry. There was no way I was driving back to get it. But I paid for it. And I’m hungry. I called, before I could even finish explaining what happened they knew the issue. They apologized and refunded my money. I could have been rude, a jerk even. I felt like it. But I reeled it in and told myself that in the long run that would only ruin my day, the poor worker guy’s day, and likely the people he was working with. I took a breath, remembered who I am and how I want to show up for the world. And then let him have it. Just kidding! I thanked him and told him to have a nice day.


I made a choice to live in alignment. It isn’t always easy, it won’t always happen, just keep working towards it. Because when you truly love and respect yourself, you get to show up better for everyone else. You get to create authentic connections. Let’s start with spending the next couple of weeks focused on these five foundations:


  • Self-Care. One of my absolute favorites. This is about honoring yourself. Taking care of you so that you can show up as best you can. Pro-tip: My book, Self-Care for the Disappointed Diva will be released in just a few weeks!!! Keep a look out. 😊

  • Self-Respect. Be the person that you want to be. Let others know (in the nicest way possible) how you want to be treated. Accept nothing less.

  • Self-Compassion. Forgive your mistakes. They are going to happen. Learn, release, move on. If it is appropriate to add a little humor, it will go a long way.

  • Self-Support. Give yourself credit for what you have accomplished, for your achievements. Acknowledge them. Celebrate them. Be proud of yourself.

  • Self-Love. Thank yourself. Learn to love yourself. Take care of yourself. The more you do this for you, the more you can genuinely love and be loved.


You probably already know that one of my favorite steps to overcome an obstacle or make change is to move, breath, and journal. So….


Move: Take a walk, go for a run, do some yoga. Just get the energy in your body moving.


Breath: Sit in quiet, do a breathing exercise, or meditate. Here a link to one of my meditations.


Journal: Use a prompt, stop thinking and just write. Don’t analyze or put thought into the words, just let it flow. Here are a couple of prompts….

  • Do my words, actions, and thoughts match the vision of who I want to be?

  • What areas of my life feel like they are not in alignment?

  • If my thoughts, actions, and feelings were aligned, what is the magic that would come about?


Give yourself time to reflect on what you came up with, what you might want to change or improve. This is a journey of discovery and acceptance. I mentioned it earlier, but consistency is key. The more you practice, the more you focus, the more peace, fulfillment, and connection you will find. It will enhance your overall well-being, it will motivate you, and it will have a ripple effect to inspire those around you. You are gift. Nurture it, honor it, let it shine.


For extra support:

Affirmation: I am proud of how far I have come and what I have achieved. I am learning to enjoy being me, authentically, completely, and unapologetically.


Essential Oil: Jasmine. Not only does it smell amazing, it symbolizes hope, happiness, and love. It is thought to open the door to your emotions and produces feelings of confidence and optimism. It is uplifting, just might increase intuitive powers, and inspires powerful relationships.


September is going to be so big for me. I have a boatload of things happening. You know me, go big or go home. Be on the look out for the book release, the launch of my brand-new podcast, and then I’ll be rounding out the month with my second Summit. I can’t wait to share those with you!


I love you,


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